We all grow up learning and understanding the fact that relationships do not come with a guarantee card, and that problems do happen in people’s lives; yet, when they knock on our door, we are incapable of accepting the problems and dealing with them. This is even truer in the case of love relationships, where a break-up can suddenly change a lot of things, and can turn out to be one of the most difficult phases to deal with. Sometimes, people know in their heads that the break-up was the only practical thing to do; yet their heart is not ready to accept it, and this causes great misery and depression.
So what exactly can one do to make things a little smooth?
Keep Yourself Busy
This may sound clichéd, but it is a well-tried and tested fact that when you are busy with a lot of things to do professionally and otherwise, you don’t have much time left to think over your break-up. And the good news is that it is more than half the battle won! Keep yourself busy with work, and try and join a new hobby, such as cooking classes, dancing, aerobics etc. It is obvious that you will miss the constant phone calls, texting and meetings with your beloved, but the best way to cope up with that kind of loneliness is to socialize with friends and meet new people. At the end of the day, you should be so stressed that you fall asleep as soon as your head touches the pillow. That will save the late night crying and misery too.
Do Things You Love
There may be a lot of things that you were unable to do during your dating period, maybe because your boyfriend/ girlfriend didn’t approve of them, or didn’t understand your passion for them. This could include going to certain events, or having a pet at home etc. He/she may have also had a different taste in movies, music etc. So post the break-up, you should indulge in activities that YOU love. Go for shopping sprees, get luxury spa massages, or maybe even plan a little holiday! In a nutshell, just keep yourself happy.
Develop A Hold On Your Emotions
Of course, the first thing that everyone tries after a break-up is to get back to the partner and try and make things work. Sometimes, giving a second chance to the relationship works. But if the other person has made it clear that he/she does not want to be in the relationship under any circumstances, then there is no point in you desperately trying to get back. You need to hold your emotions and stop yourself from sending constant sentimental texts and emails to your ex. You also cannot afford to get sympathy from your ex’s friends or your mutual friends. Such things make the situation worse, make you look like a weak soul and a fool, and bring more depression, especially when you feel that your efforts are going nowhere and that you are helpless with nobody to understand you. Hence, it is better to develop some control on yourself, which makes the healing process faster.