Relationships not only describe the seventh heaven for us, they also are a source of hell’s burning fire in our lives. Ironically relationships give us both laughter and tears as a consequence of a joyous or a miserable moment. We tell you what to avoid for having a lasting and viable relationship
Relationships are a must for our existence. The Swedish proverb vividly explains the essentiality of having a relationship,” Shared joy is a double joy; shared sorrow is half a sorrow. From the time we were created in the womb of our mother till the time we take our last breath, we are in different sorts of relationships with people who touch are lives. “
5 Don’ts for A Healthy Relationship
It is rightly said, “Whenever you’re in a conflict with someone. There is one factor that can make a difference between damaging your relationship and deepening it. That factor is attitude.” Do you know a single person who wants to be in a bad relationship? Obviously you won’t find a single entity to name. Conflicts may be seen to happen in any relationship. We all have our egos and whims that may sabotage our relationship. No relationship is spared from recurring problems that catalyses or triggers on common quarrels.We need to be careful and considerate when it comes to handling our tangible relationships.
1. Don’t Be Critical
Constructive criticism and feedback is healthy but excess criticism may sabotage a relationship. Persistent complaining and highlighting of your partner’s flaws can be very annoying and despising.
2. Thinking That you Are Right
The second most important thing you should avoid is to discarding the belief that you are always right in your dealings. The preconceived notion of you being right is something that makes the other person’s ideas stand apparently wrong.
Ogden Nash has once quoted, “To keep your marriage brimming with love in the loving cup, whenever you’re wrong admit it, and when you’re right, shut up!”
3. Don’t Be Selfish
Being selfish is something that kills your relationship by its self-centered motives. Take into consideration your partners like and dislikes as being important. Concentrating on your own needs and desires will mar your relationship in the first place.
4. Don’t Be Unfaithful
To have a strong relationship, never be unfaithful to your partner. Do not justify your misdeeds saying, “Those vows were made in the past and now things are pretty different.” Apart from sexual dishonesty, many people engage themselves in various other types of transgressions. Such activities deteriorate the relationship and slides down to a non-recoverable healing of relationship.
5. Don’t Be Controlling
Give space in a relationship. Do not be over-controlling and over- interfering. Being humans we all need to have our space and do things the way we want to be. Obviously you may be suggestive but over-indulgence is quite unacceptable in a relationship.
Relationships are the tender bonds that need to nurtured by care, love and affection. They should not be suffocated by over-protectiveness and unnecessary controlling of the other person. Lack of communication is another harmful factor that should be evaded.
Three Styles That Guarantee A Good Relationship
- The Good Communication Style – Openly discussing the problems. People are consciously trying to protect the relationship. They are honest and are active in safeguarding the relationship.
- The Traditional Style –People consciously try to avoid or ignore the volatile situation. People seldom discuss the issues causing problems.
- The Volatile Stale – Here people bicker over trivial matters but get over it soon.